What is a “Whore”?

I have been asked in more than one interview now why I claim the title whore, when I am no longer involved in prostitution.

The answer is simple.  Once a whore, always a whore.  Society has placed that label upon me, and I will never escape it. I claim it because I am not ashamed. It doesn’t hurt me that they call me that. The title “Whore” has a proud, and even spiritual history. From the Hetarai, to the Temple Prostitutes.

My own experiences as a Sex Worker began when I was only fifteen years old. How old were you when you began your career? Think about how you have grown and progressed over its course. How is your career different today then it was when you accepted your first job?

I had the same experience in my career, the difference is that I am a sex worker. I began as a child on the beach of Fort Lauderdale waiting to turn 18 so I could get hired by an escort service. From working for an agency I began to work independently via magazines in the nineties as well as dancing in clubs, and shooting a few adult films. After a long marital hiatus, I returned to working independently as an escort but this time was through internet classifieds. From internet classifieds I developed a web site. Once the website launced I began to write erotica, and study Tantra.

A whole new chapter began with the launch of Nymphtalk, when I began podcasting an adult radio show, and writing erotica for 5000 fans.

I began to change, and mature in my own sexuality and did so through Tantra. It was an important discovery that helped me grow as a person, and I wanted to share it. I began teaching Tantric Fusion to individuals at first. Then couples, then groups.

I am now in the R&D phase of a retail endeavor that takes the new Tantra based method of lovemaking that I developed over several years and teaches it to couples in the privacy of their own home.

See the progression away from prostitution itself into different areas of sex work? The Adult Industry is vast, and there are many sex workers in various positions within that industry. Phone sex workers, cam girls, strippers, and porn stars. Escorts, hookers, Somatic Sexologists, and more. There is room for growth within the adult industry for prostitutes, just like there is room for growth in other industries.

My place in that industry currently is within a small niche of individuals that want to be able to foster a truly intimate and deep connection to another human being and foster a deeper embodiment of their own sexuality.  This is where I excel. I am a compassionate and nurturing soul, and found that sharing Tantric Fusion was my calling.

Maggie compares it to the food service industry. A hot dog cart vendor is going to have a completely different experience than the owner of a five star restaurant. There are sex workers in all different positions, marketing all different forms of sexual entertainment, and I am one of them.

I put the entire industry on a back burner however, and opened a restaurant and catering business.  I ran that business for a year and a half working so hard and coming home dirty and exhausted, yet in court I was still judged as a whore.

So if I am always going to be a whore no matter my occupation,  then I choose to make sex work my occupation. Why would I want to have less pay and worse working conditions when as a sex worker I am free to make my own hours, and rate of pay? I can take days off when I want, and work when I want. I can refuse any client I don’t want to see, and not worry about losing my job.

 

I may only work 1-3 days a week, then I am free then to pursue my other endeavors such as writing,  documentary films, Art Shows, and activism.

Why is it okay to live with or sleep with a man for a meal and a warm bed, but wretched if you prefer to be paid and return to your own home to eat, and sleep in a warm bed?

In societies eyes it is much better if I allow the male to maintain control over me and offer up my body as my sacrament to him, the almighty male provider.

What happens to societies views however when I take the control back from the male requiring payment and deciding how to spend it myself? Well, then I am a whore- for life.

It is because we live in a Patriarchal society that fears the power of a woman that can create wealth on her own, with no help from a male or a corporation. Imagine the shift in power that it could cause.

Read about the Golden Age of Greece when the only women that were allowed to be in public, at a market, or theater were the Courtesans. They developed great wealth and had freedom that the “good women” envied as they were shuffled to the back room of the house when company arrived.

Women admired whores then. It was a different world.

My life was shaped like many of yours were in my teenage years. Sex Work is what works for me. It is what I know, what I can support myself doing, and what makes me happy.

I call myself a sex worker. But I proudly carry the title of “Whore” for life and dare anyone to try to hurt me with its implications. I claim the word. As I claimed “Whoremom” and the attempts to hurt me by hurling those words as insults is as effective as if I wanted to hurt your feelings by calling you beautiful.

 

 

 

 

 

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One Response to What is a “Whore”?

  1. Alexander Falcon says:

    Well said.

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